Dating to relationship
So about a year ago, I decided that I would only pursue dates with men who were looking for a relationship. So I was left with guys who were genuinely interested in finding a partner and settling down — right? Because, as I’ve written before, saying you want a relationship and actually being in a relationship are actually two completely different things.
About three weeks ago, I realised that the past four dates I’d gone on had failed The Naked Test. But I didn’t want to get down and do the nasty with them.
On bad days, I’d meet men who claimed they wanted a relationship, would get me in all nice and cozy, only to ghost a few days later, leaving me with a giant question mark. Men who were perfectly nice — the type of men who you’d want to bring home to mom — but who I 100% did not want to have sex with.
The idea of sleeping with these men made my skin crawl, even though they were super sweet.
The first online dating profile I ever set up was on Ok Cupid when I was 21.
I remember taking a lot of time on it — making sure to pick the exact words to describe exactly what I was looking for.
Since him, I’ve felt a little uneasy, since that breakup coincided with the death of my grandmother and the weddings/engagements of three of my cousins.